Sorry I was too knackered last night to give this proper thought. I'm not much better now, but I have been thinking about what you've said to him here, and while I think it's mostly spot on, I'm a little, well, bothered... by what you say at the end about the chance a girl might say yes because she wants something out of dating Harry because of who he is.
You're right, I expect, that some girls might do. But. Telling him a girl might and then saying she'd be getting something she wants from it, well, that's hinting it would be all right for him to date her for similar reasons (whatever he might want from a girl that's not based on really liking her as someone special)--that gives him a well convenient way of excusing rather shabby treatment of girls, because in his spot, he's always going to think the girl could be using him, and here you're telling him that's all right because, really, he can use girls right back and it's all fine.
I don't think that's quite how you meant it, but I think it would be better if you left him to make up that bit of special logic on his own. That way, if he turns out to be the sort of bloke who takes advantage and thinks girls are getting what they want from him no matter how he treats them, then all right, but he won't have got the idea for it from Sirius Black.
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Date: 2012-10-22 02:12 pm (UTC)You're right, I expect, that some girls might do. But. Telling him a girl might and then saying she'd be getting something she wants from it, well, that's hinting it would be all right for him to date her for similar reasons (whatever he might want from a girl that's not based on really liking her as someone special)--that gives him a well convenient way of excusing rather shabby treatment of girls, because in his spot, he's always going to think the girl could be using him, and here you're telling him that's all right because, really, he can use girls right back and it's all fine.
I don't think that's quite how you meant it, but I think it would be better if you left him to make up that bit of special logic on his own. That way, if he turns out to be the sort of bloke who takes advantage and thinks girls are getting what they want from him no matter how he treats them, then all right, but he won't have got the idea for it from Sirius Black.